There is always going to be something negative we can say about our body. Whether we are 19, 25, 35 or 50. We will never have the body that even comes close to the airbrush jobs we get to compare ourselves to in ads and brochures. Even the person standing in front of you at the grocery store you are secretly envying, you dont know their story. Genetics, plastic surgery, botox, starvation, make up, obsession, abuse. Since being the very best looking we possibly can, at all cost is now as important as fidelity in a marriage. Apparently we are just not good enough if we are not killing ourselves to be perfect. That is a bunch of bull and I deserve to tell you my opinion now. How dare you “society, media, followers, you, me and everyone” degrade imperfection, it is such bullshit. I shower every day, i eat properly most of the time, i exercise regularly, i try to improve in all areas in my life regularly, i read, laugh, rest, work and have far more discipline and commitment than most of these” i am perfect and i will teach you how to look perfect because you are not up to standards”. After this regiment, i still do not measure up to society’s finest and i have done more damage to my body and esteem than before i started. I have to work twice as hard and still, not even close to perfection. Its a load of crap. I do not believe your persona and your false confidence one bit. The novelty will always wear off only to notice something else that doesnt look just right.
Advertising really gets me going too, its legal fraud. Its so clever and mind teasing. Its so appealing and magical. Although this appeals to some people, there is more to life than ego. It is only the ego that gives into this trickery. I will be more successful if i look this way, i will make better tips if i get implants. Maybe so, but true raw confidence and a good attitude will also get better tips. There is always more than one way to look at things, even if you are the only one looking in a different direction. It bothers me that these woman with all quick fixes have the nerve to give advice and teach impressionable woman how to live the life you have always wanted, when just because they look together, does not mean they are. The reason the woman who are bigger do not live the life of their dreams at their size has really nothing to do with their looks, its their brainwashed minds that are programed to think less of themselves. I am your advocate. Screw them. Wear your yoga pants at a size 40 with pride if that is what you decide to wear. Let your muffin top hang out. Go to the store without make up. Be brave, you are worthy. You and i are perfect without even trying. Geeze, do not join the crowd and get botox, lip injections, breast enhancement, lipo suction, not to mention, dress and act like its up to your example to show people what it looks like to be beautiful. It just bothers me that these woman can fake a self esteem and self worth better than all of us and then try and sell it to us with false information and a quick remedy and make a hefty living doing it. I am deeply disturbed by societies standards and refuse to stoop to this level of a false self image. I am sticking up for real woman. The woman who have a little extra, bigger curves. I am saying what a warrior, what a fight for a good cause, what inspiration to have love enough for yourself to honour your body because it does all the work you ask of it. Because it works like a machine, a machine many take for granted. When we get cut, our body without question and immediately starts healing itself. Our body without question or doubt digest any choice of food you put in it. Even if we dont feel the need to feed it the best of the best, and by this i mean fresh fruit, and vegetables, no additive protein sources, fiber, and the wonderful world of omegas, plain water and at this point your body will deal well with the occasional treat. Our body heals itself, inside and out, breathes without asking it, tells us exactly what it needs if we pay close enough attention to it, can heal healths problem instantly with the trust and belief of our amazing brains. All this and yet apparently its not good enough. It has to be changed enough that we will get the attention from others that we refuse to give ourselves. Stop this minute and look at yourself forgive yourself for not measuring up. Forgive yourself for not following along with the self destructive path of perfection. Love yourself for all it does. Appreciate it and enjoy your life. Loving yourself is to accept what you have right now, bulges, stretch marks, cellulite and all. After all, there are many quick solutions but the ending will always be the same, not good enough. Improvement on our distorted belief of self image is a better time spent than trying to please perfection. The longer, seemingly impossible road to self love will bring the end to hating our perfect working body, and the beginning of a beautiful new outlook on your body. i want you woman to know if you do pay thousands of dollars a year on youth and the idea of perfection..you are as beautiful now and you were before and i am not hating on you. I am not judging you with hatred. In fact, i know many people who have changed their looks surgically for the sake of looks, and are dear friends of mine. I am also not saying i am right and you are wrong. I am simply saying i want to remind us of another way, another choice. I do not like things about my body but i am going to die on this earth with peace and love in my heart about all that i am worth, i pray i never give in, never doubt and never worry that i am not enough just as i am. We need to start loving ourselves, we need to teach our children what is important, what inspires us, what love is. I also understand there are millions of people who feel so differently than this. We do not have to jump on the band wagon every time something appears to be better than this moment. We still have a choice, we can change our harsh personal beliefs, turn them into love and acceptance, this mentality will provide a peace about our selves, our body, our worth for the long hall. You will never say i am not enough. We are enough, we are love, now what is the harm in believing this.
As i read this back, i do wonder if i am portraying a hypocrite. I have worn make up, got my hair done, coloured my hair and things of this nature. I do feel differently when i get dressed up. This is a work in progress for me, i want to be clear, i am not perfect nor will i ever be. My goal is to accept and love myself, some days its easy, some days i do not, but i will be a constant advocate for the underdogs in our society. Do not give up! We are here for a purpose, and i do not believe its to worry about perfecting our looks.